Why Did I Get Married Too?

So my boyfriend and I went to see "Why Did I Get Married Too" today and oh boy.  I dont want to ruin the movie for anyone so if you haven't seen it then I suggest you dont read this blog.  So part two was definitely a lot more extreme than part one and I can't front the women in this movie were straight trippin' but I couldn't help but sympathize with SOME of their situations.

Angela:  The history with Angela and her husband is she's caught him cheating in the past on numerous occasions and he is a chronic liar which is why she is so stir crazy besides all the drinking.  So now by the sequel he's turned over a new leaf and is supposedly faithful. But by now the damage is done and he cant go use the bathroom without her getting suspicious.  Big issue in the movie she wants the password to his cell phone.  Her methods of trying to get it, I will say are annooying and I wouldnt give it to her either just because she is annoying but i digress.  I believe they never worked at the issues at hand to ease her mind.  This is a monster he created and therefore he needs to take that responsibility and appease her and give her what she needs to ease her mind.  I do feel however that if she is choosing to stay that she needs to make the decision to either trust him and shut up or leave.  NO ONE, I mean NO ONE wants to deal with that drama for the rest of their lives.

Diane:  SHE WAS DEAD WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Her issue is just not getting enough of what she needs from her marraige.  Probably things got redundant, they are great, she's not bored but its missing something and instead of speaking to her husband she decided to entertain another man.  Big MISTAKE!!!  She was emotionally cheating.  I mean really thinking of another man while making love to your husband.  Brngng home the flowers the other man bought you.  She was asking for trouble.  Now if recall they had huge communication issues from the first movie.  He wanted more children and she didnt.  Now I know the word says when you get married your body is no longer your own but I had to sympathize with her on that one.  It's not easy carrying a human being for nine months.  So many of my friends are pregnant and let me tell you the stories you hear will scare you into adopting for the rest of your life. Was she right to tie her tubes without telling her husband?  No she was wrong but I dont blame her cause somehow he was not hearing her out. She was also neglecting him which was causing more issues.

Patty:  Perfect Patty who was always in control.  I feel for her.  She had not yet dealt with the issue of losing their son. Its hard.  Its easier to fix everyone elses problems and not deal with your own.  She still blames herself. As a mother, that can be classified as failure, my honest opinion I really dont think her husband was understanding enough.  I do agree she could've met him half way and tried but arguing with her is definitely not the answer.  Which is why she takes the lead in everything, I feel that is her coping mechanism.  "No more room for mistakes."  Even the divorce settlement was done so that it looked peaceful until of course everything got vengeful.  That's where i took her side.  Did he really have to go that far?  I understand he didnt want the divorce but that might've been better and given her space to really deal with her issues.  Then the burning of the baby pictures, the man handling her, and the pooring of alcohol on her.  I was infuriated.  That was beyond disrespectful.  I don't care how angry you are, it should have never gotten there.  So when she went bananas and broke everything in the house, I cant blame her at all.  I would've beat him in the head with the golf club. In the end their actions led to his demise.  We should really think about the things we do before we do them.  Even in our rage.  The word says anger and sin not.

Sheila: Sheila's marraige wasnt a bad one.  She's finally happy.  Her husband treats her well and talks to her.  Their issue was his pride and finding a common ground.  We as women want to help, we go into this automatic fix it mode and we need to know our man is okay even if the situation is bleek.  It's like she said, "you're putting me in a bad head space," no one needs reminders of their past relationship and all the crazy that transpired.  It's like I'm with you and things are supposed to be different.  Now I will admit she was wrong for asking for help from her ex.  That was just insane but he could've been more understanding about her sharing things with her girls.  It's a natural thing, this is her family and they been doing it long before he was around.  I get that she should've complied with his wishes and kept their business personal but like I said these same women comforted her through so much, it's natural.  Also her husband should, "know his woman."

This movie boils down to the fact that every relationship needs trust, understanding, and communication.  I know that many people werent fans of it however that is the best thing to pull from it.  Evaluate how you interact with your own spouse in good and bad times and how you may be hurting each other. Try to stay away from being confrontational.  Do not let the sun go down on your wrath.  Anger and sin not. Remember your relationships are a form of minstry as well.