Tuesday, May 4, 2010

30 day marraige challenge

Okay, so I know I have not blogged in quite some time and I'm a slacker but I know you'll be forgiving or at least I hope so.  While reading "The Quarter Life Chronicles"  blog I stumbled upon her 30 day marraige challenge.  I've seen the idea before, thought it was great but completely bypassed it, cause I'm not married.  But then I thought, what  about those of us who are engaged, or who are in relationships that are going to be geared towards engagment and marraige or even our family relationships.  This could be put into practice.  So I decided to participate in the challege using my boyfriend.  We have a really good relationship and a no arguing policy.  We may disagree on matters, but we usually just discuss things and move on from there. Neither of us have tolerance for arguing.  Besides we are two very hot headed and hot tempered individuals, very much the same and I dont see that going very well.  WE MAY BOTH NEED TO BE PUT DOWN BY TRANQUILIZERS if we both ever got that angry.  LOL!

So the idea of the challege is:
1- You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband, or to anyone else on a daily basis.

2- Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband . . . and to someone else on a daily basis.
3- Read and apply the daily task to help you encourage your husband.
4- Read Proverbs 31 daily.

http://www.reviveourhearts.com/pdf/30DayChallenge.pdf

http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=303756263880&ref=ts

The above links gives you a daily study guide to help you in the process as well as a more indepth explanation.  It's very encouraging and can really help you grow as a person.

It is natural for us as human beings to complain, many of us get a gold medal in complaining.  Too many times we're quick to point out the negatives for little arbitrary things and cancel out all the positive that a person has done for us.  Now don't get me wrong some of us have spouses and significant others that are complete BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!! and we need to know how to point out a dog and call a spade a spade and RUN.  This challenge to me are for the ones in our lives that are worthwhile and that's an assessment each individual has to take on their own relationships.  Please ladies and gents down be blind and naive. But I digress.  We as women love to vent and sometimes it's necessary, sometimes you need and outside opinion, someone that will give you sound advice, many times that person will let you know where you flubbed up in the relationship cause many times we are blind to our own faults but we must be wise in whom we talk to.  Sometimes we tend to forget that our friends may be less forgiving than we are. And while you've moved on from the last argument they haven't.  They are still stewing and mulling over it, you would think they were married to your husband or dating your boyfriend. LOL!

The institution of marraige in America is in jeopardy.  Its the largest crashing stock.  People are getting divorced quicker than the ink can dry on their marraige certificates and you have to wonder why. More and more people are not looking forward to marraige  and even though I know that its not for everyone a lot of people are just scared out of their minds and I believe I know why.  You don't hear many happy stories when it comes to marraige,  you hear more complaints, however there are a large percentage of happily married men and women out there and they are not speaking up.  The people who do speak up are the miserable ones and that skews the statistics.  If there were more stories of the successes and the happiness then there will be a more positive outlook on this union by both men and women. Even when you look at American television.  The wives are always nagging and overbearing and the husbands and blatant idiots that annoy the heck out the wives and are often times incensitive and we as a society have deemed this acceptable. 

I believe the success stories will help council those who are newly weds or even those considering marraige and teach them how to stick through the tough times.  It will teach you what discussions you should be having prior to tying the knot as opposed to afterwards and then you get the surprise of your life and realize  8 months later your sleeping with a total stranger and your husband is like the same repeated one night stand.  OUCH!  So please everyone I believe this challenge will help those that are single, courting, engaged, and married and teach us all how to improve as humans as well as teach us to have a more positive outlook on love, life, and relationships. 

PS:  I'll let you know how my challenge works out, my bf is traveling right now, so I have to wait till he returns.